Very often, in the excitement of the daily grind, all you need is simply slow down e enjoy life, but we almost always hear each other guilty when we do. And let’s go back to fighting the frenzy of our days.
This continuous “inner tug-of-war” leaves us in the balance between a stress that is difficult to manage and a growing need for rest and relaxation, which we deny ourselves in the name of better results.
It is almost always there fear to make us end up in this vicious circle: fear of not being up to it, of not being enough, of not doing enough.
Fear of even losing the routine of this “orderly bustle”. Fear of mistakes, because we are slaves of perfection. Fear of stay behind. Fear of go unnoticed.
Fear keeps you mired in a stream of frenzied activity until you feel overwhelmed, on the verge of a breakdown induced by stress.
However, a slower and simpler life, without giving up one’s ambitions, is absolutely possible. In this article we discover seven methods for learn to enjoy life, fully savoring the “here and now” without guilt or remorse.
7 ways to enjoy life and slow down
1. Eliminate your urge to give answers
If your life is driven by a hectic pace, when you communicate with someone else you often only listen to reply. But how much information and how many opportunities do you miss with this approach?
Instead, practice listening to what others tell you for to understand. Deep and active listening creates trust, aids in conflict resolution, avoids misunderstandings and improves professional and personal relationships.
So, next time you talk to someone, forget about the fact that you have to respond. Put yourself in their shoes, listen and learn something new.
2. Decrease your dependence on devices
Constant control of your devices makes you feel (apparently) busy e important. However, you are in fact entrusting the time management to your devices (phone, tablet, computer).
Unplugging from your digital world, perhaps by establishing one day a week without social networks, is a wonderful strategy to decrease distractions and slow down the pace. You will create more space for your thoughts and awareness, improve mental clarity and sharpen your concentration.
For example, you can schedule times to not look at the phone, reduce alerts and notifications to the essentials, and check email, chat and social media only twice a day.
3. Exercise mindfulness
Does your mind jump every second from topic to topic, project to project, task to task? The multitasking, which society presents to us as a necessary and constructive skill, is actually against nature and in the long run can easily lead to exhaustion and make us less productive.
Replace it with the single-tasking (carry out one activity at a time with full mindfulness) through the mindfulness, which among its many benefits is also able to improve yours perception of time.
Greater awareness of the present moment reduces anxiety levels, improves sleep and decreases harmful thoughts. All benefits that will slow your mind to a more peaceful and manageable pace.
To practice mindfulness, you don’t need to meditate for twenty minutes – that’s enough focus on your breath for a few seconds every hour, just like you would do stretching or any other physical exercise. Train yourself to perceive everything that surrounds you and that happens in your body in the present moment, anchoring yourself to reality with your five senses.
4. Practice gratitude
Where awareness trains your attention and causes you to slow down, the gratitude guide your heart to follow that rhythm.
In life we often focus on what we lack, which pushes us to buy and consume without ever being satisfied. But you can’t fill a emotional emptiness with consumerism.
So today be thankful for the simple things but important in your life, like having a roof over your head, food in the refrigerator, a job, a family that loves you. Do it and you’ll think twice before adding more clutter to your days.
5. Appreciate your surroundings
As opposed to gratitude, which focuses on giving thanks for what you have, theappreciation recognize the beauty of your environment and community.
When you love your relationships and your world, you perceive a greater sense of completeness. And it is scientifically proven that appreciation increases overall life satisfaction.
When you treasure the simplicity, like marveling at the nuances of a sunset or rejoicing in the contagious laughter of a child, you are practicing appreciation and adapting your rhythm to that of your environment.
6. Approach the dolce far niente
In Italian we have a perfect sentence that contains the philosophy of slowing down, “being lazy”. It is not a question of idleness, but of enjoy the simple pleasures of life.
We identify so intensely with our own business that doing nothing seems almost a shame. Instead, downtime allows you to relax, recharge, and start over with renewed motivation.
Start small by scheduling brief moments of doing nothing. For example, during your next break, instead of obsessively checking your phone, look at the clouds in the sky or relax with a herbal tea.
7. Get out of the race
We are so intent on achieving goals and satisfying desires (ours and others) that we take ourselves too seriously. And we remain overly focused on what needs to be done, rather than on Why We have to do it.
You and your frenzy are two separate entities, so do as the philosopher Iris Murdoch suggests and “disinterested in yourself”. Entrust your being to nature, art and the intrinsic beauty of this world.
When you stop identifying with your frenzy, you can connect to your higher self, which recognizes others, this world and the universe as one entity.
Imagine yourself in twenty years. What do you want to remember about your life? The daily frenzy, the career or confused memories of endless activities? I do not think so.
Imagine a life full of meaning, because you took your time to listen, observe and enjoy.
Imagine an abundance of memories and moments spent with the people who matter. Imagine long walks in nature admiring the wonders that surround you.
Enjoy life it is possible even in these times that praise speed and haste. And with these little tips, you too can find yours sweet balance for a slower and more fulfilling life.